Self-talk is self-care

Three ways you talk to yourself

1. Self-care involves tuning in to your emotions, an awareness of accompanying thoughts, attitudes, words and behaviours.

Self-talk is therefore self-care. Healthy self talk is how you mind your thoughts, what you do with your thoughts and the words you speak, how you respond to others as instructed by your emotions and thoughts, as well as the action you take from thoughts.

Mind your negative thoughts. Do not ignore them, but compassionately explore their origin, and choose your battles.

Apply reframes and take appropriate action. Whether it is an anxiety about something, create solutions then soothe if it keeps coming up. What would you do for child you love?

How you think about yourself determines how you speak to yourself. This influences and is influenced by how you view yourself. Which also influences and can influence the words you speak. Thoughts, feelings, words and attitudes impact and are impacted by how you act or behave.

Learn to speak to yourself with compassion In any situation, after parenting yourself, look into what you need to hear. Speak those words to yourself.

Throughout the day, consider how you have speak to yourself. Tell yourself what you need to hear, as well as what you want to hear.

Decide what special words you can repeat to yourself daily. Each day find something lovely to say to yourself.

Repeat affirmations. Soothe with kind words and praise yourself.

2. Self talk also includes how you speak to others and about others.

Your speech and attitude is generated within you. No matter what you think of others, say of others, or how you act towards them; if it is unkind, you are self-harming.

This is your issue! As Ryan Holiday said, " Those who have subdued their ego understand that it doesn't degrade you when others treat you poorly; it degrades them.”

You cannot assert into anyone's experience. Any negative thoughts, words or deeds towards others, no matter how justified, will come back to their origin.

This is why you need to leave others alone, or help them.

When you get involved in drama, recognise that is self talk. Fighting, hating, gossip, and talking behind people's backs, that is self talk. If you can help it, avoid calling others names.

3. In interactions with others Do not allow jokes where people use mocking and negative words at you. Say no to name calling, negative-labelling jokes. The universe accepts on your behalf what you accept about yourself. Do not normalise demeaning yourself. Avoid calling your children negative labels. They grow up believing that they fit.

Evaluation

At the end of each day, evaluate yourself. Did you speak the words you need to hear? Were you compassionate to yourself? Is there something you said that you regret?

Practice dichotomy of control. Learn from your words, parent yourself and make Intentional changes. Reframe your words, and forever keep your peace.

When night comes, consider this; "How can you improve tomorrow?"

Journal your reframes and set an intention.