Romantic relationship is not the priority relationship for a quality life.

Romantic relationships is not the priority relationship for a quality life. But a healthy romantic relationship can help you maintain or even enhance the quality of your life..

This does not mean that you do not need to prioritise romance and want to be in a relationship with someone, if that means a lot to you.

Prioritising romantic relationships over all other relationships leads to ,

1. Getting into any romantic relationship that might not be good for you.

2. Out of desperation you settle for any relationship.

3. You ignore red flags to meet your "relationships goals"

4. Through your struggle in relationship, you start to neglect yourself.

5. You neglect other relationships when you are in an unhealthy relationship, such as parenting, friendships and family.

6. You control another person to meet your goal.

There is another way. Rather than feel as if you have to be in a relationship, sit down and look into what you really want - peacefulness and a quality life.

Your relationships need to demonstrate your inner state. Create a relationship plan with that awareness.

1. There is no rush to get into a romantic relationship, or to push your partner in the present relationship. Work on yourself.

2. Give yourself a timeline for major healing. That is an investment in yourself.

3. Commit 1, to 1 and half a day to your healing and self-care. You deserve it.

4. Avoid treating your healing like a luxury. Your romantic relationships are a luxury. Your self-relationship is mandatory. Your quality of life is riding on the quality of your self-relationship.

5. Invest financially if possible, in therapy or course. But also join a support group.

6. Invest in self-care.

Get up to yourself and practice meditation, gratitude, affirmations, hug yourself, deep breathing, laughter, cathartic shake and set an intention.

Throughout the day segment intending, notice and practice kindness and create boundaries.

7. Regulate emotions with SIFTSEM and journal. Look into your thinking patterns and learn tools to think differently.

8. Track your behaviours that are not helping you. Use SIFTSEM to deliberately and intentionally change your behaviours. Learn social skills.

9. Heal your inner child and reparent with tools. Forgive yourself, forgive others, love and respect, trust yourself.

10. Have accountability in co-parenting to explore your blind spots and get feedback on what to work on.

As you incorporate this work, and learn tools for life, you improve your emotional baseline, your thinking, behaviour and therefore your self-relationship..

When you know what is healthy for you, you can also take that into your next relationship.

1. You will be able to recognise what does not feel good to you.

2. You let go of bad matches early on.

3. You are OK in or out of a relationship.

4. You do not put up with bad behaviour.

5. You do not try to change a partner

6. You prioritise your well-being and self-care.

7. You trust and respect yourself, and act with self-compassion.

Heal for your relationships..