Relationships without labels .

When you start working on yourself, you learn to consciously approach situations and to intentionally get into interactions and situations with a plan. This approach includes your relationships, be they romantic or friendships. It is helpful to address relationships without labels. 1. Not having a label can be a boundary issues. 2. It makes it easy for to exit or decide to commit when it suits the other person. You would not go buy something from the shop that does not tell you what it is on the label. 3. A label neither prevents breaking up nor does it mean that someone is tied to you. It gives you both an idea of the parameters within which you operate in the relationship. A great recommendation is that when you get into a relationship, get in knowing what you want and ask early on to find out if you are on the same page. You could spend years "dating" or in friends with benefits situation when you want commitment. You have the right to know what kind of situation you are involved in. You would not get into a job without knowing whether it is a temporary , part time or full time contract. You could bring up the issue face to face one day and say, " I am looking for a committed relationship with someone on the same page. How about you?" Avoid discussing relationship issues over text or phone. You can wait. Meanwhile, in the space learn to parent yourself. If the conversation about your relationship status is not responded to in a healthy way, then be aware that you are likely to get on a rollercoaster ride. Anyone who has your best interest would not want to see you distressed or agitated about such a simple matter. A person who is into you would not put themselves in a position where they might lose you. The first important question in relationships is, "What do you want? You can get it. It does not have to be with this or that specific person. The second question is, " What does the other person want?" This is only for information purposes, not for you to try to mould them into the man or woman of your dreams. Take charge of your life. Self-leadership is important to avoid going with the flow of streams that are not going in your general direction. You as much as anyone else deserve to know whether you are on the same page with someone or not.