Reframing post SIFTSEM

When you have done a SIFTSEM each day and you find yourself in negative states, learn to reframe. SIFTSEM prevents bypassing emotions and escaping the reality of how you feel. Being present starts with welding, not skipping emotions.

How would you like to feel instead

Sit with your Journal and apply words that describe how you would like to feel and what else your situation might mean.

Change how you feel and feel the change in yourself.

Make a decision to sift through your emotions and find something to focus your thoughts on that feels good.

You might be having a difficult time in a relationship. Look into what is working.

You could start with gratitude for life and anything that you have.

You could express gratitude for your children born or not out of the relationship.

You could remind yourself you have a job to put food on the table when you are feeling like giving up.

You could reflect on what you do so well on when you feel like a failure.

You could focus on things that feel like fun, when you feel as if everything else is boring.

You could focus on people who support you when you feel as if everyone is against you.

You could welcome the aloneness as a time for solitude and recharging, not a time of abandonment.

You could see your singleness as an opportunity to do things you love without worrying about offending another human.

You could see your child's vitality where you might feel they are running around and making noise.

You could welcome someone interrupting you to ask how you are as some welcome humanity instead of annoyance.

Where someone is not stepping up, you could look at it as an opportunity to step up for yourself.

You could go on.

On the other side of what you think or feel is a different perspective and feeling.

See if you can reach out to something that feels better than how you are feeling.

Remember, duality. You have a choice in the space of your negative emotions. SIFTSEM Journal is available on Amazon.