Reframing cognitive distortions about relationships

Cognitive distortions keeping you stuck in an unhealthy dynamic Ask yourself this question today... What stories are you creating around your situation that are keeping you stuck? Then, change the narrative. Some cognitive distortions which might be keeping you stuck in a situation show up as managers and firefighters. 1. You might be telling yourself that you will not meet another person like your unhealthy relationship partner. Reframe this statement and recognise that you can meet someone else, but for now it helps to heal. 2. You might be telling yourself that if you leave your partner will find someone else and you cannot bear that. Reframe : You need to act in your best interest and allow other people to continue on their journey. 3. You might feel that nobody will like you once you let go of this relationship or the ex. Reframe: This person not treating you well might not like you and this might simply be an act of self betrayal. 4. You might swear not to leave until they leave . Reframe : You deserve better and to act in a way that protects and serves you. 5. You might feel that you cannot let your partner or ex down. Reframe : You are letting yourself down. 6. You might tell yourself and others that you are staying in an unhealthy relationship for the children. Reframe : Children deserve a safe environment and parents who prioritise their safety rather than parents who self-serve without considering the impact of their decisions on kids. 7. When it is good, it is really good, but the bad times are equally terrible. I guess I am lucky my partner puts up with me. Reframe; You need consistency and peacefulness. 8. It is too late to start something new. Reframe: As long as you are alive, use the time you have to create your best rest of life. It is never too late to turn a new leaf!