Reconnections

Done right a reconnection can provide people with an opportunity for a conscious relationship. Many reconnections could succeed; If people were not rushing back to what broke them. If people were able to take the time to pause and sit with their discomfort of not being with their ex, and feel their feelings about what was not working in the relationship. If people could recognise that it is ok to take space from each other and heal, to each connect with individual selves, before they reconnect for relationship. If people could take the time to find out what has changed before going back to their break up partner. If people could recognise that they will not be going back to the same relationship. If people could realise that they need new skills for a new relationship. If people could assess whether they are still on the same page, because people can change their goals following a break up. If people could agree and monitor boundaries before they go back. If people could date at a slow pace and go through the stages of a new relationship. If people could love themselves before they love another. If people would avoid living on borrowed esteem. If people could acknowledge that some people are toxic for them.. If people could recognise that some relationships have completed their life cycle. If people could recognise that there is plenty of fish in the sea.