Reconnecting post break up

When your ex makes you an offer to reconnect and you wish to take it, consider the place from which you are considering their offer.

Before you make decisions manage your anxiety, and sit down and decide what you want. Sometimes you might simply want to go back due to the anxiety from the rejection, abandonment or because you do not want to be alone.

Do not go back to your ex from a place of nostalgia or missing them.

With or without your ex, what do you want?

Does your ex's offer sounds like it?

If you want a relationship, consider if the offer sounds like the relationship you want. If someone wants to get back with you, they need to be direct and to have and present their plan to you first. We also know that a healthy relationship takes time, so consider what your ex's offer means to you exactly?

Are they willing to take the time to get acquainted to each other gradually, or is there pressure or rushing to do something.

Perhaps in this moment decide what you really want. Also find out why you might want to reconnect with your ex, considering why you broke up in the first place.

Sometimes, we need to recognise and let go of the right fit for our wounding. To gravitate towards a trauma mate. When your ex reaches out, it might help to request another chat, if they make suggestions around relationship or starts texting constantly.

Do not go anywhere without a clear destination. It is ok to let an ex go if it does not sound as if you are not on the same page. Sometimes we miss a feeling which we can still get in another person. It is ok to grieve and let go.

Or to to consider starting dating from scratch. If you want an ex back, start as if you are meeting for the first time. Observe behaviour and if you notice red flags, do let go.