Questions to ask yourself about your relationship relationships
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- Sep 20, 2021
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Questions to ask yourself about your relationships
Am I happy and peaceful in this situation?
Your life is not supposed to be a struggle.
Why am I in this situation ?
1. Look into the decisions you have made in your life.
2. Look back at how you grew up. What similarities do you see?
Is this relationship going where I am headed?
You know what you want, you need to know where you stand and where you are going. Observe behaviour.
How am I contributing to my present situation?
Consider how you are showing up.
What are you allowing in your life that is not in your best interest?
What are you not doing that can improve your outcomes for quality life?
Why am I not acting with unconditional positive self-regard?
It is your duty to protect yourself with boundaries.
Is this situation or my behaviour helpful for my young children?
Your children are traumatised by unhealthy dynamics. If you are unhappy, you cannot raise children who are happy. They have to learn it on their own. That is hard.
Who around me is enabling me?
Let go of people who give you useless feedback.
What do I need to do to avoid self-betrayal and get out of this rut?
Ask for help.
Look for resources.
Look for accountability.
Be honest with yourself.
Look for healthy circles where you get honest feedback.
What can I start doing right now?
Detach and disengage. Focus on yourself and avoid battles and proving your point.
Let go of caretaking. Let others look after themselves.
Let go of the need to be right.
SIFTSEM and feel to avoid reacting.
Sit with your triggers and objectively evaluate.
Introduce conflict resolution in your relationships.
Invest in your life and interests.
Make friends.
Examples of behaviours to stop
Stop initiating contact with someone who is inconsistent.
Stop trying to be right.
Stop over-explaining yourself in messages and conversations.
Stop asking someone if they love you.
Stop telling someone what to do.
Stop trying to change a partner.
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