Preparing your break up and next relationship

Your can prepare a conscious break up if your relationship is not working well. You do not need to wait for a partner to end the relationship. With an awareness of what you want, the best option is to exit and act in your best interest. In fact when you get into a relationship have a break up plan too.

What you need are tools. Many people who struggle post break ups have no plan or tools..

You might need therapy and counselling, bit you need resources to self-parent, as well as accountability. The accountable person acts as your immediate circle , first go to support person. This person can hold space for you and also be the person you contact when you feel like contacting your ex.

You can receive support to minimise unhealthy venting and also minimise pressure in your other relationships.

No contact is a great tool following a break up.. Block, delete the number. Hard, but worth it.

Your ex have their own path to walk, so do you. So, hard as it might be, it might help to start writing that break up letter with all that has happened, including reason for break up. Read this later when you feel weak or want to reach out.

Another challenge people face is replacement of routines they had in relationship. This is why you need self-care, investing in your interests and an immediate circle, as well a voluntary opportunity.

When you have your own life, you might miss some parts of the relationship, but it will not be catastrophic.

Replace this person with you and an accountability partner.

Do what you used to do for them for you. Love yourself with five love languages and five senses.

Reach out to, and exchange love with your immediate circle.

Replace touch with own touch and massages.

Leave yourself love notes.

Buy yourself flowers.

Take yourself out.

Collect gifts for yourself.

While you are alone, it is therefore time to lay that foundation you can build your next relationship on.Build your self-relationship, an immediate circle and greater good.

Ensure you maintain this circle even when you get into relationship.

Explore healing tools.

Practice daily self-care.

Sit with your emotions daily and name them

Identify unmet needs from childhood that are triggered. Regulate yourself and soothe with five love languages and five senses.

Journal.

Reach out to an accountability partner.

Everything has its own time.

Let it hurt, then let it go. You got this!

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