People and things are on loan

Instead of pondering what you are losing or have lost, consider the opportunity in your loss. We get back what we give out. If you dwell on the loss you do not see the gain. The solutions.

Sometimes you lose a job, a relationship and things at the same time. It is not bad luck. Life, like a coin has two sides that co-exist. Life happens, and everyone encounters these two sides daily. It is how we all address them or confront them that determines our outcomes.

There is a space created for you to do something or make something or welcome something else.

My strategy is to step back, SIFTSEM and process my feelings. To process my conditioning and address my inner child and soothe the belief of loss. Parent and soothe and then recognise that everything comes from me, from inside. So I start to reframe, to apply higher perspective.

Explore what else this could mean

They were not the best match.

There is something else coming in that space.

Everything is temporary.

What can I learn from this.

I am being saved from something.

If I trust the process, I need to look into the energy I am giving out.

Live in appreciation for what is.

Be in the moment.

Appreciate that I am still alive.

Look around at what I still have. Rather than focus on what no longer is there.

Rather than stay focused on what is gone, what is no longer there, start to revel in what is still available.

You have not lost everything if you are still alive.

Focus on solutions.

What can I start doing differently. Dichotomy of control

How can I practice acceptance. Accept duality

How can I learn to let go?

Trust the process.

Self-care.

Be in the moment.

Replacement exercises. Put something in the place of what you feel you have lost. If you are in a break up, replace them with you. Then seek an accountability person to contact when struggling.

Replace routines.

Massages for touch

Get yourself gifts.

Little love notes for your inner child.

Hang out with your immediate circle.

Look at opportunities that are coming your way.

You will notice then if you are not attached to outcomes or to what is gone.

How can I prepare to welcome what is coming into my life.

Self-care. Maintain a state of appreciation.

Be ok with uncertainty.

Tools for self-management.

Learn the art of letting go.

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