Partner parenting behaviours

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If you have repeatedly communicated to your partner that you are not happy about them communicating with someone, commenting on specific people's posts or following them, here are some thoughts on the matter.

Being in a situation that constantly triggers you is not healthy.

Your feelings are valid because they are a sign of your unmet needs.

However, it is what you need to do about your feelings that makes or breaks your relationship.

If you want your relationship to work, there is one battle that is best not ventured into: telling someone who to talk to, hang out with and who to follow.

The moment you feel entitled to dictate who someone talks to, is the moment you make your relationship fragile. That attitude comes from a place of control.

When we try to control others, it can only be because we cannot control ourselves.

Control behaviours are one of the key reasons relationships end or become toxic.

What to do

Trust your partner to talk to who they talk to.

You found them practicing freedom, and that is important to them, as well as you.

The best thing for you is to learn emotional self-control. When you have boundaries with yourself, you do not push against anyone or anything.

Work on your anxiety with a therapist or counselling or co-parenting. When you struggle with control, you need mother.

If you trust your partner, and also recognise that they even meet people in person at work and on the streets, then you can live, free from attachment.

There are many ways to meet people out there, and if your partner wants to meet them they will, whether you interfere or not.

Whether you know it or not.

If you are finding that your partner is associating with people with unhealthy habits, consider whether you are acting in your best interest by sticking around. Take yourself out of the equation and then let them decide whether they want to come with you or continue on their self destructive path.

It helps to recognise that when

someone feels pressured, that is when they might then decide to do the very thing they are accused of doing. Or they run!

Parenting behaviours put people off because they left mother to be in a relationship.

If you are struggling with control and anxiety, sometimes you need to explore whether you are ready for dating, or you need therapy.

It helps to take some space to work on your inner stuff. A partner owes you nothing. They choose you from a place of freedom.