Parenting yourself

Good morning, afternoon, evening or night wherever you are!

Each morning, to learn commitment to the self, we practice;

Meditation, Affirmations, gratitude, self-hugs, deep breathing, Carthartic shake and set an intention. Throughout the day, laughter, mindfulness, segment intending, conscious eating, exercise and interactions. Loving the self with five love languages and five senses.

Bedtime reflection, self praise Hugs before bed.

In order to improve your outcomes in life, learn to improve how you feel and think in the present moment.

Because emotions are the language of the body.Thoughts are the language of the mind. If you understand the languages of both mind and body, you get to understand yourself a bit more everyday.

So, begin to embrace, manage and release emotions. Begin to ask why to your thoughts, create solutions and reframe.

Use SIFTSEM to make decisions in your best interest.

If you have already reacted, go back to the story, re-experience and parent yourself. What can you learn from what you did?

What can you do differently in future?

If you are about to react, pause, take deep breathes. Parent yourself. What would a loving mother advice you to do? To act in your best interest.

If you are in the middle of a reaction or feeling overwhelmed; pause, breath, detach and name your feelings, pay attention to your thoughts. Ask yourself why you feel the way you feel or think those thoughts?

What can you do differently that is in your best interest?

There is no reason why you would react, vent,complain, other than that you are struggling to control your own emotions. That is ok. The idea, is to start to approach differently. To start looking at life from an adult perspective most of the time, and not let the inner child take control.

You are an adult now.

Take charge of your life.

Create boundaries for yourself..

When you promise yourself that you will act differently, remember to enforce that.

Remember how triggered you get when children keep repeating same mistakes. This is what you might be doing repeatedly. However, because you do not have accountability, you might get away with self-harm.

Hope you have an awesome Friday!

SIFTSEM TOOL- Sensations, Images, Feelings, Thoughts, Soothing, Endorphin Release, and Meeting Unmet Needs.: A solution focused emotional-regulation and cognitive restructuring tool for triggers. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08TQCYC7G/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_3XVX9T6J8YZ12NF54HTP

The SIFTSEM Journal: The self-healer`s diary to develop emotional awareness and self-management in 90 days. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09CRNQDML/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_K7DS0GPHEG06SQH0RRPG