Not giving can also keep you stuck

Self-love involves and includes others. You might set a standard for how you are loved, but you set that standard, not only for you, but for community too.

One of the standards of self-love is centred around giving your gifts. There is something you can offer others instead of giving and receiving love from your inner circle, or instead of expecting love from others. Or instead of looking into what others can do for you.

The attitude of focusing on what you do not have, instead of what you might offer is rooted in a lack of gratitude. This attitude can also be the reason some people might stay stuck.

We all have gifts. Something we are good at, something we have in abundance, and something we are blessed with.

We can fill others from our abundance. We can support others with our knowledge.

We can provide something someone needs.

Instead of trying to compete or get customers, we can share our gifts as an act of self-love. As a thank you to the universe for life and blessings. As a sign that we acknowledge that others do something for us too. Something that keeps us going in some way.

We can share our gifts to help others transform their lives, for a minute, an hour, day, for a week, a month, a year or for years. Quality time volunteering, words of affirmations or advice, acts of service volunteering, physical touch or hugs and massages and gifts.

As we share our gifts, sometimes there is no direct thank you. We might not get back something we can physically see. However, the fulfilment and pleasure arising from an awareness that someone has benefitted, or someone has been blessed with our gift, can open us up to allow more.

As we give, we also acknowledge that we know we will get more. Awareness that there is more where it came from is an abundance mindset.

When we are also able to part with the little we have, even our relationships can prosper, because we can apply that abundance of gratitude in our relationships. This applies when we are congruent, and do not give externally for publicity while our immediate circles do not experience our gifts. We can also learn give, and acknowledge what we receive from a partner.

Additionally, underlying giving is an attitude of, " I have so many other things to be grateful for" which does not put emphasis on that relationship only.

Lack of gratitude keeps us stuck

When we constantly notice what is wrong, complaining, criticising, and unappreciative, it can be a challenge to notice what we have. We are in a "never enough" attitude which blocks effort from others and can lead to control of outcomes. Simple kind gestures can be missed, because we want specifics. In that mode, we might also not tune in to our intuition "to allow" in receiving mode, and therefore miss some opportunities where we might get what we desire.

When in lack mindset, we equally might not notice we have something to give to others. That we are cooperative components for others who require intervention. As we miss opportunities to support others, we might also miss the cooperative components that accompany those opportunities, which might lead to the fulfilment of our goals.

Many people think you can only offer money, but that is far from true. People need more than money. They need ideas and guidance. They need concepts and support. They need something you no longer have use of. Something you bought and do not need

Identify your passions and share them with others. Share something you know or you have in abundance with others.

Be there for others, even those you do not know. Someone you do not know does something for you daily. Notice kindness. Do the same. Someone is waiting.

Heal for the world.