No contact following a Break Up Is Not Enough on its own.

Just no contact without doing some work can be inadequate. The question is what are you doing in those days when you are going no contact?

It is not possible to wait and hope that things will change totally without doing any work on yourself. You are only creating physical distance which is fabulous, but you also need to work on the emotions, thoughts , attitudes and behaviour

No contact is an opportunity for you to work on yourself without the interference or the involvement and participation of your ex.

No contact is a time for you to reflect on what you want as well as you, and your emotions.

No contact is a time when you look into what might have happened in the relationship and explore your role and how you can resolve your side of the issue. Make sure that you take this opportunity to focus within and to practice self-care and SIFTSEM.

Repressed emotions will turn up in your future relationship, so make sure you heal your break up..

If you learn to ground and regulate yourself, it will be easy for you to avoid self-betrayal.

When you have a new point of focus, that is you, it helps you to move away from focusing on your ex. Focusing on your ex prolongs your agony.

The whole point of no contact is to learn to love yourself. As you focus more on your self, you prioritise yourself. In this period you learn to detach and put more emphasis on your well-being, than in someone else or a relationship.

Rather than focus on romance, you strengthen your self-relationship and invest in other relationships on the second level.

Even when your ex comes back you might be ready to do a relationship with tools, and in a fairly healthy way.

The idea is to avoid rushing back even if your ex comes calling. Instead you need to assess where you are in terms of your healing, or how you feel. Take things slowly and monitor and evaluate to see if if there is any change in them and you, from what was happening before.

If you do not take that time of no contact to work on yourself, you will go back to what broke you in the first place. You then keep repeating patterns.