Mindsets that can keep us stuck - Superiority complex

We might feel like we are better than others or we do not fit in. We might feel like others are not good enough for us, men , women alike.

This comes from a social construct of class, wealth, intelligence, achievement and beauty. We are taught to view other people as "more than" and when we see ourselves as better than, we look down on others as less than. This is keeping some people stuck or struggling. It is also a sign of scarcity mindset.

We might have this belief that we are only "attracted to handsome men" or bad boys. We typically lack interest in a boring looking girl or boy next door. We might dismiss people at face value imagining that they have nothing to offer us, because of what they sound like, look like or their background.

Deep down we judge others because we are scared of the things that they are capable of achieving. We have fear and insecurity.

We might be struggling with lack of self-love, self-acceptance and feelings of unworthiness. We project our insecurity on others. When we are scared and lonely we try to feel better by putting others down. We then reassure ourselves that we are not on their level and we are better.

We may judge others and tell ourselves that we have people figured out. This leads to narrow mindedness and conceit.

We might dismiss someone as not our type, reject advice from someone because of who they are in our eyes. We might grade people and measure them unworthy to meet a need, provide a service or do something to benefit us or someone.

In that myopic view we might miss the person we will spend the rest of our life with. We might disregard someone who might lead us to something that we have been searching for, or a cooperative component to something pivotal for our growth.

It is helpful to note that we cannot be lovers and friends to everyone. We are different and unique , yes, and all beautifully created. We are all worthy and there is really nobody out there who is entitled to more blessings or well-being than others because of those characteristics mentioned above.

If we believe deep down that we are capable and able, then we can extend that sentiment to others in our act of trust.

An open mind and curiosity can prompt us to accept and enjoy a date from someone who is not our regular type. We just might just end up in a great relationship. People grow on us. It just takes getting out of that comfort zone. Try something new, something different.

Not saying disregard aspects you might not live without. Put more emphasis on qualities of character and compatibility as a priority, if you are looking for a long term relationship.

These judgement behaviours are not fixed behaviours. This is an age of unlearning old habits and developing self love. When we love and accept ourselves, it is easy for us to love and accept others too. We can learn that gradually , as we hold ourselves with high regard.

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