Healing is self-love

You and I grew up trying to make mum and dad happy. So, we believe that loving others to happiness holds the key for us. We do not give ourselves the time, effort , love we give another. So, we are most likely expecting another person to do the same for us. We keep getting hurt because we are relying on love from each other. When we both have no clue how to love ourselves as individuals. So it is, that you and I trying too hard for the other, Putting the other on the pedestal, and none ourselves. We have an idea of how a lover needs much of our love, as if to them we are mother. Yet, we cannot afford our individual selves that same effort and standard. I cannot know the standard you set to be loved, Unless you showed me with how much you value yourself. With what you allow and do not allow from me. You cannot come and love me a big much and enough, Because you do not know my standard, For your big much can choke me that much, I am thinking, " How much is he/she giving her/himself , If he/she has this much for me? I know it is infinite love, but there has to be a limit to infinite to another. Love yourself, because you need it too. Not because I cannot love you if you do not. Only because I would not know how. Only because if you do not love yourself, I feel like you wish to take from me to fill yourself up. I cannot let you do that, I cannot! I cannot be there for you that big much you are pushing on me, I have me to replenish, and others apart from you to romance. My friends, family, my colleagues, the public. I was not just born for you. So, I need you to be there for you, Just as I need to be for me. I cannot be forever with you, Even in our forever after, we are seperate. So, learn to love and accept yourself, as I will myself. So that when I love you, I fear no thief of my happiness. For I can only do so much for you, as you for me. The burden of imagining you hoping to feel happy from my actions is not mine to carry, It scares me to be on a pedestal where your inner child belongs,

It is too much to be given the keys to another human being's happiness.

Love yourself my lover Love yourself more than you love me!

I am secure enough to appreciate that you come first in your life when you love yourself.

For then, you become a prize,

I do not have to worry about you as a mother worries about a child. For I know that you are not coming to me empty! Because those who love themselves know how to love another in a way that does not deplete them , or pressure another