Love on three levels . Your best interest

You have the ability to tap into your inner resources and address your life situations. You also have resources externally that you can access to achieve your goals. Are you limiting yourself because you do not believe the resources exist?

You make decisions in your life daily.

You make choices.

You take action.

Just apply the same concepts to your pyschological existence.

Your life and love is not only confined to a local or immediate communicate. You are a part of a larger whole. Here are your three levels of self-love.

The first level

Imagine this: You are offered a menu in a restaurant and you choose what you want to eat. No-one might force you to eat what you do not want to eat.

You go to a car shop and you select which car you want. You do the same with buying supplies, with friendships and jobs. You choose. That is enough information to demonstrate how resourceful you can be.

In your daily life you have the same one option. Choose your focus. When you think thoughts, choose to the path of criticism, resentment and bitterness, or reframe, reparent and focus on choosing solutions so that you feel good.

One option is to let your emotions overwhelm you, or you can choose to sit with them and have a cup of tea with them. Soothe yourself with hugs, affirmations, encouragement and give your a cathartic shake and focus in the moment.

You can choose to live with appreciation, reflect on your behaviour, to change attitudes, reframe our thinking and regulate your emotions daily. You might learn emotional intelligence and improve the self-relationship, and therefore quality of life. This can help make your existence enjoyable.

The second level

You choose circles in our best interest.

You can choose how you show up in the circles in which you were born in or raised in, because yoy had no choice but to be in these circles. These circles are your training ground for your other relationships. You might then choose other circles in the form of friends, colleagues and interest groups.

The immediate circle is a resource which can help your growth, should you choose well. You need others, and these others need to contribute to your wellbeing. Do not just stay stuck because you know these people.

You learn social skills and conflict resolution in these circles. You learn to ask for help, to express and create boundaries. You learn to dodge enabling inner circles that promote self-betrayal disguised as people who make you feel good, when they reinforce your fears. You give and receive love with five love languages and five senses in these circles.

You learn to interact with others and to accept different perspective. You learn that being right is not a source of worthiness. You learn that being around others is a form of emotional regulation as they hold space. Only if you pick healthy circles just as you choose healthy food from the supermarket aisle.

The third level

Yoy give your gifts in your best interest. You owe the greater good. You have something you got from someone you do not even know. Some good deed done for you by a stranger.

Part of loving yourself involves giving something to community. However, you give from a place of passion for fulfilment, as well as duty. Tap into your inner resources and do what you love on the first level, and offer your gifts to others on the third level.

You owe whether you believe it not. You owe for living life. You owe for your experiences and satisfaction that might be enabled by the work others do. Electricity, water, hospitals, infrastructure, goods, services and support That is why you need to practice gratitude every single day for life, and all that you have and encounter, and every time someone gifts you. You need gratitude for your experiences because they are a gift to learn from, and for you to expand.

What are you giving back to society, because sometimes that is the last piece of your puzzle.

Remember to follow these steps in order.

You can connect with others in a healthy way without a healthy self-connection.

You cannot love if that love does not include you.

You cannot just live for people you know. The world expands beyond your immediate circle.

You cannot love only you without loving others.

Heal for yourself

Heal for your relationships

Heal for the world