Let it hurt, then let it go.

As humans of habit, we can struggle to let go of self-protective habits. We can find all excuses to hold on to unhelpful patterns. We can argue about how challenging it is to do something, even when we have not tried to do it. The use of logic is one of our major undoing. There is a one size fits all for healing outcomes, in that we are all desiring to be peaceful. Peacefulness is achieved through training ourselves to practice behaviours consistent with being tranquil. There is also a one size fits all in that healing involves self-parenting. Sometimes in our self-protective patterns, we believe we are avoiding pain. However, the pain we can go through while intentionally healing is only short term. Yet, the pain of survival we experience daily is never ending, and is even more excruciating. By living in survival, we become addicted to suffering, to chaos. In order to thrive, we need mother. The mother we need is in us, as is the child who needs the mother. Due to conditioning, we parked mother a long time ago and put her out of work. We need to retrain her again by learning and practicing from level 0 of self-parenting. So, it is that at some point we need to take charge of our lives, and not allow the child in us to keep controlling us. For once, we can adult and teach the child in us to play and create, while we take care of serious business. Healing is a tough decision to make, but still a decision we need to make.