Learning to move on

We are in the classroom every single day!

We cannot ward off what happens or put a pause button on life. Break ups, unwanted and seperations will happen. Yet, we need to keep going, and while we keep going we need to go careful and with some level of satisfaction. What we need, is to learn how to go careful in order to create a quality life. It might sound as if there is no way of knowing how to start or where to start. Nobody taught us how to move forward after challenges. Here goes;

We cannot ward off what happens or put a pause button on life. So, we need to keep going, and while we keep going we need to go careful and with some level of satisfaction. We need to learn how to go careful.

Following a break up, it might feel as if there is no way out, or any way to contentment. You are used to being with someone. You do not know how to be alone. You are used to loving someone. You do not know what it means to love yourself.

It might sound as if there is no way of knowing how to start or where to start. The future might look bleak, and you feel like you are starring into a dark hole. Unlike school, there is no starting age. We all have to start when we have a need to start. As soon as we find out we need to start. Everything we become good at was once something we did not know how to do. We had to be taught, and to learn theory, to practice, to be tested/assessed and repeat. Everything we need to do now to improve our outcomes requires new learning, as well as daily practice. Whatever changes you need to make require you to learn to do something different from what you have been doing. You also benefit from repeated practice in order to become competent at whatever you need to do. Acceptable grades came with willingness, commitment and effort. Winning on the pitch came with commitment and effort.. Changing your life experience is not an assignment anyone else can write for you. Someone can proof read for you though. Only you can write it. Maybe you do not know what it means to love yourself. Perhaps you do not know how you can love outside romance. For society has potrayed romance to be the only place where love happens. You require support or information to know what self-work for self-care involves. The morning routine where you wake up to yourself with meditation, gratitude, affirmations, cathartic shake, deep breathing, and hugs for your inner child plus setting an intention - before you do anything or anyone. The daily routine of segment intending, kindness, forgiveness, getting yourself meaningful gifts, walks in nature, taking yourself out, laughter, mindfulness and SIFTSEM and journaling. Ensuring you feed yourself healthy and exercise. Paying bills to avoid distress. Boundaries and healthy circles. The night routine of bedtime reflection, praising yourself, learning from your day, setting an intention for tomorrow, counting backwards from 100-0 and hugging yourself to sleep. You require the willingness and commitment for these simple practices. To monitor your behaviour consciously. To recognise, prevent and manage self-betrayal. To begin to trust yourself through acts of self-compassion, self-respect and self-commitment. There is no good time to start. There is no good time to continue. Now is the time. The choice is yours You got this.