Learn to move on

If life is to be a little easier, here is a tip I have found helpful. The art of moving on. When something happens, deal with it in that moment. Recognise that life happens. So, sit with it, feel it, grieve it, manage yourself and focus on dichotomy of control. What is within your control? To do now, in the short term, in the long term? Parent yourself, forgive yourself, create solutions and plan interventions accordingly. Learn to deal with situations and get back to the present. Focus on what is in front of you. If you have something to heal from the situation, start now and focus on on your journey. Do not get too consumed by how someone might be acting or behaving comma especially after encounter or situation with them. Do not take people's behaviour personally. People do what people do for their reasons. Unless you are trying to create solutions to help you or someone, do not give anyone too much power in your life by making them the focus of your long or daily conversation. If they are around you, then consider whether they were intentional in the harm or they are likely to keep inflicting it. In which case, you need to consider your boundaries to protect yourself. Is this the right environment for you? What is outside your control? Give the universe a task. It is out of your hands. Let it go! What to let go of Let go of sitting with or chronically evaluating another person for a long time. Let go of carrying around judgements of somebody else. Let go of spending your life criticising another person for something they have done. Let go of going from person to person discussing another person. Let go of trying hard to convince other people about how "bad" someone is. Let go of allowing anybody to occupy space in your head. Let go of holding on to issues and faults of others and put that time towards your issues and faults. Let go of seeking to revenge, because that is over investment in something of no benefit. Also, remember the law of cause and effect. Let go of thinking that people need to be a certain for you to feel happy, because people are free to choose. Let go of convincing people you are good for them.

Let go if someone shut a door. Remember this, life is passing by. Each day you are getting older. There is so much of you to love, so much of life to enjoy and so many circles to connect with.

Each day you spend focusing on another person, could be put towards precious moments of fun and working on your goals.