Lack of self-control is due to absence of tuning in to emotions

It is essential to recognise that, the answer to your challenge is rooted in acceptance of emotions. Unaddressed or repressed, emotions pile up and will create a volcano that needs to erupt at some point. These unaddressed emotions also create disease in the body. The moment you tune in to your emotions, and focus your attention on the trigger assessment, you can begin to understand yourself and what is going on in you. If you are struggling with insecurities, then it is only because you might be avoiding the associated emotions. You therefore might not be sure about the root of the insecurity, in which case, you need an outlet for the emotions.

Understanding why you feel insecure can help with self-parenting. Parenting involves soothing with five love languages, five senses, as well as creating solutions. If you tune in to the emotions and name the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts, you may identify root cause and have an awareness of what to parent in yourself. Through application of root cause, you are likely to recognise that your insecurities stem from your beliefs, as evidenced by the thoughts you think, which are not necessarily true. If you are responding to any question in the inner child work, you will find out that every question you ask requires tools from love on three levels to address repressed emotions. SIFTSEM or objective is the go to parenting tool for each situation you need to address. It is how you apply Love on three levels and SIFTSEM, that might differ in each exercise.

Recognise that each life challenge you encounter is accompanied with emotional overwhelm, or an emotional experience. For this reason, to manage this situation calls for emotional evaluation or healing, or in other words, self-parenting. Think of yourself as a baby or young child in distress, and how a loving mother would respond to that child. In each situation, she most likely uses the same approach of soothing, with some additional activities for specific scenarios. Self-parenting is not only about soothing with hugs and words of affirmations. Parenting includes creating solutions and goals to act in a way that is helpful for you and that improves the quality of your life. Above all, self-parenting involves taking the action from the decisions you made in your best interest. This also involves evaluation of your decisions and actions daily, to adjust accordingly. SIFTSEM TOOL- Sensations, Images, Feelings, Thoughts, Soothing, Endorphin Release, and Meeting Unmet Needs.: A solution focused emotional-regulation and cognitive restructuring tool for triggers. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08TQCYC7G/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_EST0M0GG8JM441A4YK72 The SIFTSEM Journal: The self-healer`s diary to develop emotional awareness and self-management in 90 days. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09CRNQDML/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_AD2PD19CA3C8FD7FHZNB

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