Know yourself

Self-reparenting

The first step to self-love and self development is to know yourself. It is important to understand the person you are going to be with for the rest of your life - you. It is also helpful for you to live your authentic life rather than the false self from conditioning.

Use the Johari Window

Explore the following concepts

1. Self concept - this includes self-awareness, self-image, self-esteem, self-efficacy, and self-love love amongst others.

2. Evaluate and journal your triggers, life questions and experiences.

3. Explore your belief system and conditioning. Your authentic self is buried under these layers from childhood.

4. Look into Cognitive Reappraisal

and Expressive Suppression facet.

5. Accept and solicit Feedback

6. Contemplate the ideal man.

7. Explore 4 dimensions of human existence

8.Strengths and weaknesses

9.SWOT analysis

Assessments

Learning styles

Love languages

Apology languages

Attachment styles

Emotional intelligence

Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator

Stress signatures

Ennegram

11 sex personality types

To explore the Unknown quadrant of the Johari Window look into

How you respond to conflict or difficult circumstances

How you deal with people who do not agree with you

Your coping strategies in times of hardships.

How you treat others when you are successful.

Your biases and cognitive distortions

Your Ego defenses

How you give and accept feedback

What you like to learn to do differently

Why do you need to know yourself?

Know where you are to know where you need to go.

Create a safe home from which to explore world.

Create a safe space to go to, after dealing with the world.

To minimise reactions and also to have some place to go to after reacting.

To know what you want so that you do not accept what is not good for you. Or whatever others want.

If you know who you are and what you want, you know how to get your needs met. You therefore set a standard for how you get needs met.

You know what to accept and what not to accept.

You also know what you do, why you do it and what you can do differently.