It's your job to tend to your inner child

We great arsenal in our possession. An awareness of our childhood wounds. This is a priority to address and also to help we understand why we might use certain strategies in relationships.

When we're clinginging to ghosts or dying relationships, its worth assessing the trauma this person might be triggering in us. Especially the type of abandonment trauma. To explore our childhood & the type of parents who raised us.

In relationships, we renact the trauma from childhood.

If someone isn't interested and they clearly demonstrate it by not being consistent, ghosting, not stepping into their role & we peform double duty, it is not in our best interest and the interest of the relationship to be reaching out to them or trying to work out whether they are interested.

If someone wants to be with us, we won't need to try and decipher their behaviour. We don't get that opportunity because they show up.

In the time we try to make it work and they arent available, we can spend that time exploring the city, meeting new people, investing in our interests and healing emotions.

Relationships need not be this hard.