Invest in your interests

Good morning, afternoon, evening or night, wherever you are. Anytime is a good time for meditation, deep breathing, gratitude , affirmations, self-hugs, cathartic shake and to set an intention. Mindfulness : Segment intending, reframes, forgiveness, less complaining. SIFTSEM. Bedtime reflection. Hug and soothe good night. Count backwards from 100-0. Tip for the day Invest in your interests. When we learn about love on three levels, one key attitude on the first level is to invest in your interests. Many of us parked our interests as we grew older, because of commitments to others, to work or parenting and relationship. With our lack of life outside these roles, we can end up getting stuck, by being too focused on what a partner is or is not doing.

Marcus Aurelius said, " To live the good life: We have the potential for it. If we can learn to be indifferent to what makes no difference."

It therefore helps to explore activities you enjoyed as a child, or new activities in adulthood. Invest in interests which you do alone, as well as interests involving others. This helps you with making peace with solitude as well as learning interdependence and engaging with others. Explore creativity to connect with the child in you. Art, drawing, writing, colouring books, games, making things, such as sewing , knitting, crafts etc.

Also invest in activities and exercise. Have an exercise outlet. Walk, jog, hike, or go to the gym, yoga etc. Use the Internet guided exercises.

If you do inner child in this community, you can write the story of your life too. Travel and learn new things, near and far whatever is possible. In your locality are places and things you are still to see. Go to coffee shops, sample restaurants, visit monuments and parks. Join clubs and groups and make friends. Some people have a desire to connect with other people, but struggle to know where to start.

If you have young children you also need time off. Join clubs for parents, get your children into clubs and have free time.

Ask for help in a safe second level where you are not enabled or shut down. Learn to do this by going through a process of objective evaluation where you create solutions, and recognise where you need help. That is self-care.

Help others. Make your contribution to the greater good and help and even meet others as you support them.

Journal. Learn to use a journal whenever you feel alone, lonely or abandoned. Address your emotions, and parent yourself. Instead of pushing against anyone, let yourself be your mother. If you invest in yourself, you will not feel the need to be with someone or a specific person all the time. You will also treasure your alone time and allow space in romantic relationships.