If a partner is abusive to you

Work on yourself on self-love and create boundaries. Uphold your boundaries. Do not compromise your values.

When someone is calling you names, walk out. When you are both calm, learn to use feeling statement. Start with writing down. " I feel hurt, sad when I am shouted at. Is there any way we can resolve issues when we are both calm?"

When someone hits you report to the police.

When someone does not respond to your communication, leave them alone.

When you are humiliated or put down, stop trying.

Do not make excuses for their behaviour. You will remain their emotional punching bag.

Ask yourself why you are treating yourself as if you do not deserve love and respect?

What would a parent do for their child in a similar relationship? Do that for yourself.

Protect yourself because you need to be safe if you are to thrive.

When you sit down to discuss this issue, make sure you express how you feel without sparing their feelings. Be open and vulnerable and honest. You need to stand up for you. Do not let it slide each time things calm down. That does not give them the incentive to change.

In fact if you feel abused, pause the relationship until you have discussed these relationship issues.

Also let them know that being abusive in front of the children, not only affects you , but it distresses and affects the children, and also impacts their future and how they learn to do relationships.

Meanwhile, you need to focus on yourself and invest in your life and interests.

Learn to love and respect yourself and to value yourself.

Create space.

Avoid responding to verbal confrontations..

Stop initiating discussions for a period.

Try to reset the dynamic.

Learn to leave situations where you are treated badly.

You deserve respect. Staying longer is an act of self-betrayal. Remember, too, people love and respect, people who love and respect themselves..