How to love what you say you love

If you want something, you appreciate by looking after it well.

If you want something, you appreciate it by looking after it well.

When we really want something we make an effort to make sure that foremost we get it.

When we have it, we look after it really well. In looking after it well we are showing that we appreciate it. Acts of appreciation indicate that we want to keep it and we want it to be in the best form.

When we leave the rest to nature, perhaps things might happen outside our control where we lose this thing. But we will have done our best.

On the other hand anything we do not value might not receive any attention at all. Or it might get little attention whenever we feel like we want to use it. Or we need it.

When it comes to relationships, whether we are parents or we are a partner to someone, the same concept applies. When we want someone to stay, we appreciate them. We give them attention and love, and check in on them. We make sure they feel that they are seen, acknowledged and loved.

While we give them space, we keep the connection open. We do not stomp on something or someone we love. We do not shout at them, hit them or speak to them like dirt on a regular basis.

We do not ignore things we love.

We do not breadcrumb people we claim to love.

We do not maim or hit people we claim to love.

We do not leave people we claim to love starved of attention.

We do not leave people we love second guessing whether we are still in or out.

People we love do not need to prove themselves for us to step up.

We do our part.

We show up, acknowledge and support them.

We see them and try to understand them.

We then allow nature to take care of the rest.

We do not force our opinion or push them to be what we want in the name of love. We appreciate them anchored in who we are. We do our part. We then allow nature to take care of the rest.

Children are the same. How we treat them demonstrates whether we want them or not. It is not what we say but what we do. Because in every action we take, we have choices.

When we do not want something, we treat it badly. We might tolerate something or someone because we have it, but deep down we know we would not smash the glasses of our favourite house, or scrap the paint of our lovely car.

If you want something, you appreciate it by looking after it well.