How to heal in a relationship

How to heal in relationships

It is advisable to take the time to heal emotions following a break-up. Yet, there are people who are in a rush out there, people who will not allow themselves, the grace of singularity. It helps to accept that we all have different journeys, and we can therefore support one another in any way we can, whatever choices we make.

This post might provide tools for people to heal in a romantic relationship.

1. Create a relationship plan. Have an awareness of what you want, and ensure that you only accept people on the same page.

2. Date a few people to start with, to ensure you are on the same page. Sit and SIFTSEM your decisions. Do not rush to conclusions because of looks or potential.

3. Meanwhile, start healing work.

4. Pace relationship. Start slow and do not jump onto every opportunity or invitation to go out.

5. The space you create is for you to focus on yourself and parent yourself.

6. Introduce self-care even when you spend time together. Normalise self-parenting even when you are with a partner or date. Let them get accustomed to your ways of being early on.

7. If you sleep over, get up to your routine even if it is after morning sex.

8. Stay in bed and repeat gratitude, affirmations, deep breathing, a mini meditation, set an intention, hug and speak to your inner child and get up and do a cathartic shake.

9. Introduce your inner child in your relationship. Let your partner or date know that you matter in your life, by your actions not words.

10. Respect your boundaries and theirs.

11. Detach from outcomes. Do not force matters or try to fix their flaws or problems.

12. Gauge compatibility by observing actions.

13. Introduce routines at the get go.... Discuss love languages as soon as you start chatting. Introduce appreciation early on.

14. Date nights, conflict resolution hour weekly and holding hands, looking in each other’s eyes as soon as you have regular scheduled dates.

15. Create space and do things you love.

16. Do not force outcomes. Get out early on if you start noticing red flags.

17. Open channels of healthy communication early on. Be vulnerable without flooding. Men, lead the connection without controlling.

Make sure you continue daily self-parenting with SIFTSEM and journaling to remove too much focus on the other person and pay more attention to daily ou feel. Avoid the habit of acting as if someone is holding the key to your happiness. Take them off the pedestal.