How to do relationships like a pro

Assess your relationship patterns and the accompanying behaviours. Evaluate and list the patterns that are not serving you. Or patterns on repeat.

Revisit the type of kind of parents who raised you. Explore how you were loved. How you were disciplined and how you attached to your caregivers.

Assess your parents relationship patterns. What you admired.

What you struggled with.

What you did not know that you found out when you were an adult.

The secrets that were kept that now make you realise why you might be where you are.

Assess relationships of people around you.

What you appreciate about them.

What you find challenging or what you would do differently if you were in them.

Assess your friendships and work relationships.

What are the challenges and what is working?

What would you do differently?

What would you like to let go of?

What is stopping you?

Assess your parenting.

What type of parent do you think you are?

If you put yourself in the shoes of your children, and you viewed yourself from their perspective, would you feel that you are well looked after?

Loved, acknowledged, and seen and understood for who you are?

What might you want to change or improve?

Assess how you feel about yourself.

About your life.

Where do you want to be?

Or how would you like to feel?

Acceptance of where you are.

Acceptance of your flaws and your upsides.

Recognise that to be human requires that you evolve, you grow, you expand.

To expand requires acknowledgement of both weaknesses and strengths.

Be resourceful

Seek support.

Accept feedback.

Detach in your relationships.

Set aside the time to heal.

Invest in your self-care. Your interests, a routine to parent yourself. Love yourself with five love languages and five senses.

Let go of control.

Heal the inner child and connect with essence of who you are.

Tune in to your emotions, and listen accompanying thoughts, and make decisions in your best interest. Journal.

Learn to speak differently, to act differently, and to apply different attitudes in your relationships.

Evaluate yourself and also ask for feedback from your partner and other close family. Your children are a great source of feedback.

Heal for your relationships.

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