How negative thinking impacts your outcomes

How negative thinking impacts your life and goal outcomes

Any form of negativity from complaining, judgementalism, or revenge, will impact your life negatively.

It does not matter whether you are complaining about your mother, your children or the people who wronged you. Here is how you manifest negatives with negatives, without even thinking about spiritual aspects of relating.

1. When you have negative thoughts about something, you also will have an accompanying attitude or mood to that something.

2. When you have a negative or bad mood, that will leak in your interactions with others. You cannot expect to have healthy conversation when you have a negative attitude or bad mood.

3. When you are complaining about someone you live with or you are in a relationship with, you will adopt a negative attitude towards them which leaks in your interactions with them

4. In your bad mood, complaints and judgementalism, you keep looking for conditions that confirm your negative thoughts.

5. When your mood leaks in conversations and you do not have healthy conversations, relationships deteriorate.

6. When the other person reacts to your bad mood, you confirm your thinking and your beliefs about them. Your fears are confirmed to be true.

7. The person you are in a relationship with does not, and will not tolerate living a life of persecution or judgement. So, they try to defend themselves and you get to an impasse.

8. Relationships end, work situations deteriorate, families disintegrate because of negative thinking as fears are confirmed.

9. If you are complaining that there are no good men or women, you are going to look for confirmation for that. You therefore meet people and accept them out of desperation and end up with wrong matches. Alternatively you practice self-protective behaviours to confirm your beliefs when you meet healthy individuals.

If you believe you are always a victim of certain situations, you will get into those situations and find a reason to see yourself as a victim. You could get into a general situation and personalise it to feel what you are used too. This is a self-protective pattern.

Basically, you cannot get set on a negative thought process and get anything positive from the manifested attitude. Everything just goes downhill from there.

This is is why it is important to explore cognitive restructuring. To explore emotional healing. Your thoughts accompany feelings. SIFTSEM and identify root cause of your complaints. You have a dominant thinking pattern. Something you constantly repeat thoughtwise.

Sit with it.

Ask yourself what you feel , think and why you feel and think that way.

There is a root cause in your childhood.

Parent yourself and apply reframes.

Create solutions for your situation.

Post SIFTSEM, you may employ the mindful observer.

Notice what situations trigger your thinking pattern.

The more you reframe and practice 54321 and other tools to change focus, while recognising the negative effects of your thinking pattern, the less you are likely to persist with this pattern.

Your thoughts hold the key to a peaceful life.

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