How does unresolved trauma impact our relationships?

We bring ourselves and our skills into relationships.

How we feel about and view ourselves and how we view the world and others shape our attitude and behaviour in relationships. We bring ourselves into relationships, with these views.

Our skills and beliefs and attitudes come from conditioning and how we are raised or how we internalised our response to the way our caregivers responded to us.

For those who grew up in unhappy homes, due to the neglect or insufficient love or abuse we experienced, we developed strategies to survive. These strategies were a result of denial of our emotions, to accommodate the demands or needs of our parents.

Unless we adapted differently as we grew up, or we heal, we will take these strategies into relationships.These strategies worked, albeit adversely to keep us alive.

Obviously, what worked in childhood for survival, does not work in relationship with another adult. Whether it is at work or with children, those strategies are outdated.

Applied, they harm our relationships.

This message is for your healing.

For your parenting.

For your relationships.

For your peacefulness