How do you improve your relationships?

By changing your routine through change of attitude If you are struggling in your relationships or, perhaps in your life following a break up. Or you have not been in a relationship for a long time, change something in your life. Notice that you are in an unhealthy cycle or dynamic. Decide that you want to improve your outcomes. Explore why you might be in this dynamic by looking back to childhood. And the childhood of your partner. Detach and start to nurture yourself. More than anything, in this moment, you need you. You need the love and comfort you believe comes from a relationship. For now, instead of fighting with a partner or trying to change the dynamic or your partner, recognise that because the momentum has gathered on your relationship, the relationship needs to reset. At the moment only Unless there is physical violence, which means you need to leave here is what help you at the moment. Where you believe the other person needs to change, for now focus inwards. Where you feel wronged or taken for granted, for now focus inwards. Where arguments are started, detach. Where there are accusations, do not defend yourself right away. In all these situations, step back and acknowledge how these situations make you feel. Stepping back also requires that you recognise your part or role in these unhealthy patterns.

Especially notice the habit of making excuses for your unhealthy patterns. Explore what would make you feel good. What do you need to feel loved, acknowledged and understood? Start to nurture yourself and give yourself that which you need. Unless we are children, we benefit from learning to fill our own cups. Because, we also need to reflect on who can give us that much we need when we cannot give it to ourselves. Self-care daily, and learning boundaries. Journal emotional regulation activity. Then, look to your immediate circle outside your romantic relationship, to meet your needs on the second level. Seek therapy and healing. You then also find ways to give love to the greater good. Look outwards to offer what you can from a full cup. As you commit to yourself, and you feel the love you give yourself. And as you receive love from those who give it to you freely, you will start to feel stronger in your self-worth and your belief that you are loveable. You do not need to fight for attention or to change anyone to get love. When you start to show yourself this love, if your partner is meant to stay, they will start noticing. As long as you hold your boundaries and are not swayed by their initial push to keep you where you were before, your partner might step up. Because people will try to push against your boundaries, because they want to dance with the wounded part of you they are used to. Many people who try to improve their relationships by introducing boundaries, might give in to the demands of a pushy partner and revert back to their default status of porous or no boundaries. Hold your own. If they start responding, the next step to is to introduce conscious relationship. Introduce rituals and routines. Date nights, holding hands and looking in each other's eyes and repeating words of affirmations, conflict resolution hour weekly, etc. If they do not respond to your boundaries positively, then you know, the relationship has reached its use by date. Continue to work on yourself and let them dissipate in the background. Part of your boundaries means to let go when things and people need to be released.