How do I know the next person will be good for me?

Following tumultuous relationships, it can feel daunting to date again. What might be more challenging is not knowing whether you will meet the same person in another individual again.

The whole point of healing yourself is to avoid relying on other people's behaviour as guidance for where you want to go.

When you heal, you are setting the standard for what you want and how you are loved. When you heal, you prioritise yourself and put focus on yourself. You teach yourself to make you a priority, to respect yourself and your values. When you heal, you are saying, " matter!"

How do you know what is best for child you love? You do your best to meet their physical, psychological, social and spiritual needs. Once you teach your child what is healthy, they can go into the world with an awareness of what "healthy" means.

When you start dating you screen people according to the sake standards by which you live and love yourself. You ask yourself, not them , questions about whether this feels right or not. You check in with yourself whether you are in the right place or not.

You focus on how you feel, and use that as a measure of how you will proceed in the situation with any person.

Above all, you look for a situation, not a person. This means, you do not focus on the behaviour of one person. You keep looking for a situation where your needs will be met.

Heal for yourself