How do I know that I will not get into a toxic relationship next time?

You know by the way you relate with yourself. The dance between you and you.

Whatever the dynamics of your next relationship, they might greatly depend on your self-relationship.

If you are still in constant fight and flight mode, you are not fit for a healthy relationship. If you not have self-management and self-parenting tools, relationship with another might be risky.

If you do not have boundaries, that is a sign you are not ready to date. You might need therapy, not a partner.

The number one factor to predict a healthy relationships is to foremost develop emotional intelligence as an act of self-love and act with virtue.

This means you need to get to know yourself on a deeper level. Know your traumas and triggers and understand what matters to you.

Heal and reparent your inner child and reconnect with yourself. In this act of self-love, you put yourself first and learn acceptance, trusting and believing in yourself, self-respect, self-compassion, and boundaries.

As you understand yourself and develop empathy and social skills, you develop and act with virtue. This transforms your character. You learn not to attach your happiness to things or people. You take responsibility for your life.

When you are working on your self, you know what is best for you, and you do not settle. You have no time to wait for people to change or to step up for you to feel good. You focus on how you feel about the dynamic.

When you meet lovers, you screen them according to your new values. You know what you want and what you do not want,and that is what you adhere to.

You do not have to try to understand suitors more than you need to. When there are red flags you do not wait around to find out whether someone will change. You let them go.

When you create boundaries, the wrong matches will fade away. As long as you do not have porous boundaries, the right person will stay.