Healing our parenting

Struggling parents were once struggling children. Struggling colleagues were once struggling schoolmates. Struggling friends were once the Struggling child next door. Struggling spouses, were once struggling young people in one way or the other. Sometimes we see in our own worldly words " We call him a rowdy child, A child we label as naughty We might label another delinquent A toddler with serious temper tantrums, A child who has not been taught better A child who has no manners An arrogant school boy who knows it all, The list goes on..." Deep breath and reflect, Do you also see that child in many adults at work? Do you see this child in the person you once married. Or in your friends Your neighbours Your family And even in yourself? You see, before you decide that someone else's child is a problem, a nightmare or difficult, perhaps look into what we are dealing with in these moments- childhood trauma. None of the children are challenging because they just are. Most of the challenges are a result of upbringing. Also remember, these children, our children will be the adults who will be in the relationship discussions for the future generations. Before you judge how badly a child was parented, perhaps recognise that while people do the unthinkable; 1. Hurt people hurt people. 2. We are all victims of victims. 3. Nobody wants to be dysfunctional, but trauma made it so. 4. It starts with you and I to heal for the future. 5. We can all start to heal for ourselves, heal for our children, heal for our relationships and heal for the world. Whenever you see a struggling parent, spouse, colleague, friend or family, recognise that it might be trauma at work. Or even a challenging mother in law. Or daughter in law. They were once children. Recognise that young children are just being protective and trying to survive. They have no other choice or they will fail to thrive.

Practice compassion. Look into how you can parent your young ones consciously. Remember, whatever you struggle with affects your children. So pick your psychological battles carefully. Pick your behaviours consciously. Choose your words. Your children are watching, listening, and learning. We all have a responsibility to heal the world, starting with ourselves. Perhaps direct them to tools. Or buy them this little book for awareness.

We all have a responsibility to heal the world, starting with ourselves. Perhaps direct them to tools. Or buy them this little book for awareness. To everyone, with love!: A message to everyone who crosses my path. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08WK7R31Z/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_1Y6XF7Y4ZTJ6WDJDP5N5