Heal for your children

It is not in a healthy relationship if your young children are excluded. For the sake of our children, let us learn to leave these unhealthy relationships. Our children are relying on us as the school that provides relationship and life lessons. If you stay in an unhealthy relationships or keep chasing people, consider this: What is your daughter learning from this situation about how to be with men or women? In your treatment of your wife as a father, husband or step father, how are you teaching your sons to relate to women? What are you teaching your daughters about the behaviour of men? What are you teaching sons so that they do not treat women unkindly? In your treatment of your husband, as a mother, wife and step mother, what are you teaching your daughter about how to treat a man? What are you teaching your sons about what women are out there? What are you teaching daughters so that they do not control men? What are you teaching boys so that they do not hate all women? What are you teaching your children about what people accept from partners? In an unhealthy relationship, What is it exactly that you are getting from this person that you cannot get from a healthy relationship? If you are looking after another adult who treats you badly and you have children, how many children do you now have to look after and why? If you are looking after a partner who is not stepping up, consider, why is it important for someone to need you that much? You are one person in emotional turmoil, how do you manage to hold space for your pain, your partner and your children in an unhealthy environment? Who is looking out for you? If you look into your childhood, you can get answers to why you are there. Learn self-parenting and acting in your best interest. Learn to believe in end up dates. Learn to tune into the abundance of the universe.

Trust the process. Remember, your children will grow up with the lessons they learnt from you. From how they felt you parented them, not the effort you think you are making. Your children will grow up and they will not forget how you made them feel.

So, yes, it is trauma that leads to your behaviour, but more than just focusing on how someone has made you feel, sit with the impact of the situation you get into, to your children. How these situations hurt them. How they have nothing and no one to take care of them and to look out for them, except you. If you cannot look after yourself and act in your best interest, it is going to be a non starter for your children. No way out. Heal for your children.. Heal for your child.