Forgiveness and your healing.

As long as you are holding on to anger , bitterness and resentment for wrongs done to you, you owe yourself self-compassion. To feel better and improve the quality of your life, you need to release all buried emotions. That means, release people attached to those emotions too.

Forgiveness ties in with self-compassion. You might struggle to forgive with the belief that forgiving them means you are letting them off the hook.

Truth is, forgiveness has nothing to do with what other people do or have done. It is about owning your experience.

Forgiveness is about being compassionate to yourself and choosing your focus and what to pursue in life.

Forgiveness is choosing your freedom and freedom is choosing thoughts and actions that are beneficial to your life.

When you forgive and own your experience, you take responsibility for your life, through choices you make.

The choices you make when you apply balanced freedom, propel you towards a peaceful and serene life.

You do not put your happiness in the hands of another.

You take back control instead of putting your health and wellness in the hands of peopls who have behaved adversely towards you.

You choose to do what feels good to you.

You let people off the hook, with an understanding that you can choose what affects your life.

You can choose what to give your attention to.

You can release what does not serve you.

You can allow others their choices without holding them responsible for your wellbeing.

You can allow yourself your choices without holding yourself responsible for anyone's happiness.

Forgiveness means, you practice compassion for yourself. You eliminate, release, minimise and de-prioritise any thoughts, attitude, behaviour or decisions that affect your life adversely.

SIFTSEM : Feel your feelings, work out a root cause, and apply reframes.

Prioritise your self-care and well being.

Let go.

Apply the dichotomy of control.

Change your focus and take responsibility for your choices.

You do not need to stay around people, you are not comfortable around.

You can minimise contact.

Maintain boundaries.

Learn to manage your emotions around them.

Learn appreciation and taking old stories into new conversations.

Live in the moment.

Appreciate the shortness of life.