Enjoy the process instead of waiting for a relationship

Rather than worry about what has not happened, plant a seed and then enjoy the present moment. Farmers plant seeds in the ground and do not keep knocking on earth to open up and find out what is going on. Having given attention to the soil, they trust the process. Even when some seeds do not germinate, they do not protest in anger or give up farming. Instead, they prepare and replant where needed. They might be disappointed that some seeds have not germinated, but they are also aware that no amount of upset will change what is. They just need to create a new reality for the future and probably do things differently. Your thoughts and desires plants seeds in your life, which are in "their soil" waiting to germinate. Imagine that you want to buy a house. You go to work and start saving money for a deposit. That is planting a seed. If you stop saving then there is likelihood that you will set yourself back. If you want a relationship, you throw the desire out there, then start to save for a relationship. Consider what you are putting into the savings for relationship. Are you adding more to desirable behaviours to become relationship ready, and therefore get what you want? Or are you setting yourself back through your self-sabotage behaviour, settling in relationships that are not fit for purpose, or waiting for someone else to change? If you wish to achieve a healthy relationship, here is how you plant the seed for one. To avoid scarcity mindset which can lead to settling, find a replacement before you get into a relationship. Allow yourself to be single foremost. Or even while in the present unhealthy relationship. Put something in the place of your future partner. What you want is a feeling of love, and that is not a discriminatory feeling. Love is love. Unless you mean sex. 1. You? Love yourself without condition. Invest in yourself. Create a vision board and imagine yourself in a healthy relationship before you go to bed. Each morning, wake up to yourself, then to that visualisation of a healthy relationship. Make yourself a priority in that relationship. Throughout the day, practice some parts of relationship with the world at large. Emotional regulation. Conflict management. Treat everyone you meet as if they are special. They are. Love everyone you come across, without losing yourself. 2. Your immediate circle? Give and receive love to people in your immediate circle with five love languages and five senses. Learn boundaries. Practice empathy. 3. The greater good? Learn to take focus off yourself. Give without expecting anything back. You can love anybody and everybody if you choose to. You are full of eternal love, overflowing in you. It does not belong to one person. It cannot wait for a romantic person only. Let it flow out to people around you. Give love to people you encounter in your daily life. If you live with love, you are most likely not attached to outcomes. You might screen people to find someone who is aligned with your purpose. You look for a situation, not a person. In this state, you are likely to attract someone who is equally genuinely loving. When you find this person, you already have tools to be in the moment. You take your time without rushing and observe character. You also pay attention to how you feel around this person and in their absence. You have your own interests to invest in and you care about how you feel. You do not settle.

Enjoy the relationships you get into, and if they do not feel right, be grateful for the lessons. Practice letting go when you notice the res flag and apply them as guidance that the relationship is no longer aligned with your purpose.

With an understanding that you are looking for one person, you recognise that you need to sift through a lot of people. That also involves weeding out wrong matches. Love on three levels: Finding love in the right places (Friends Abroad Relationship : Self-healer series -Quality life before relationship!) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08W7SQ5HY/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_7QS1SVH2Q4M9358H4F02