Do not rush to take control

Rushing decisions while still dating

If your date or partner's ex is liking their posts on social media

This is one of the issues which come up now and again in relationship conflict.

There are two points you might want to consider if you want to maintain your relationship.

1. If you are still dating, that does not mean you are exclusive. Whatever you do or do not do, your date will choose what is best for him. If you are only dating, date others.

2. If you are in a stable relationship, you might parent yourself and be honest with yourself about how this affects you. Is this your insecurity or do you believe something is going on? In many cases nothing is going on.

b) You could express how the situation makes you feel. If you express yourself , owning your experience, and allowing your partner to choose, that will give them an opportunity to reflect on their actions.

c) However, your partner cannot stop people liking their posts. The only action for them would be to unfriend the person, and that has to come from them directly. Do not make suggestions.

2. Your partner or date might not even be paying that much attention on their ex. They might just be value and respect each other, but nor enough to be together. Such is life sometimes. Some people even hang out with their ex sometimes in real life.

2. People will do what people do. You are allowed to express your boundaries.

3. More importantly, solid foundations are key. This means if you are secure in yourself, and your relationship is solid, these actions might be annoying, but do not have to affect your relationships.

You need to be mindful that you can share the foundations of your relationship yourself, by panicking at every stranger or ex who reaches out on your date's or partner's timeline. Let people live their lives and choices. Those who are meant to be with you will not need prompting.

4. When you are confident in yourself and demonstrate that you do not attach worthiness to a relationship, your partner might not even notice those like beyond what they are. Work on your insecurities.

If they recognise that the "likes" are affecting or threatening the relationship, then they might unfriend this ex.

5. Whatever, happens, it is important to continue to focus on your relationship. It might not help to challenge people about likes on social media. It is just like telling someone off for saying hello to someone.

In my opinion, it is healthy to leave things as they are. The moment you start going " there" to question confront and attack, you are leaving your relationship "here!"

Pressure might make your partner feel controlled.

They will unsafe and parented. They might react and do the opposite of what you want. They will feel as though they cannot do anything right. This is where you might begin to disturb the foundation of your relationship.