Do not attach anyone to your goals.

If you want to achieve a goal, do not attach it to anyone. Instead focus on the situation you want to create.

Sit with your goal and create a plan after an objective evaluation. Articulate the strategy by foremost. Identify a goal and how it feels when accomplished. What it looks like. Tune into how you feel and your thoughts on the goal.

Long term solutions focus on how you might mitigate risks, manage failure and regroup to direct your resources and in your new plan. That is an acceptable part of life. Part of solutions include a plan of action and perhaps the kind of people who might support the goal. However, no matter that you might have specific people to include, avoid starting something relying on a person. Or getting into dating hoping that this person is going to commit to you before or into relationship hoping that you will forever be with this person. If the why of goals is not necessarily well thought out, you might do something because you saw someone else doing it. That does not make it a match for you though. Part of solutions include a plan of tactics and action include perhaps the skillset that is suitable for the goal. You might also include specific people. However, no matter that you might have specific people to include, avoid starting something while relying on a person. Or getting into dating hoping that this person you just met is going to commit to you, or getting into relationship hoping that you will forever be with this person.

Relying on people will also have you abandon your dreams if these people are not cheering you on. Or they might tell you to stop because your dream is not working in their eyes. Or if they do not want to be in a relationship with you, you abandon romance.

People feel what they feel and act from that place. Their feelings are affected by something happening in their lives, your behaviour and their own purpose and how it might be affected by your presence or attitude.

The reason you do not rely on other people is because as your ideas evolve, these people might not be on, or maintain the same space or pace. When relying on people, as theirs or your ideas evolve, or you anticipate the next level of your goals, your paths might start to clash. Depending on your self-care routine or the kind of commitment you have made for your goals, your path might open up faster that they can catch on. Or theirs might open up before yours. When you start feeling discomfort in your relationships or businesses or projects, that is a sign that something or someone is not going at the same pace as you. You might have attached this project or situation to your worthiness.

That is information you need to move forward. However if you start to cover gaps, you might have attached this project or situation to your worthiness. When you notice yourself having to technically drag someone along, or to try to force outcomes, recognise that you have attached someone to your goals. When you start doing the heavy work, because you feel frustrated that someone or something needs to catch up, step back and assess yourself and the situation. You can achieve your goals. But you do not need to achieve them by doing that thing exactly maybe. You can get into a relationship, but it does not have to be that person maybe. Or perhaps this relationship is done, and you need to reconnect with yourself before you seek another.

If you stop pursuing your goals because someone let you down, or you stop dating because someone does not want to be with you, that is attaching this person to your goals. They owe you nothing. You are simply letting yourself down. The idea in this is to look for a situation not a person or thing. People and things do serve their purpose and there are other cooperative components out there. Waiting. Primed up for your purpose. By looking for a situation not a person or thing, you do not push against anyone or anything. You accept the uncertainty of life, the choices of others, and you learn to trust that things do work out for you. That you will get what you ask for with different people.