Difficult relationship are giving you feedback. They are not inviting you to fix

Everything in life has some form of measurement for quality. Same as your relationships.

In order to find out whether the potential suitors you meet are a match, you are supposed to take the time to get to know people. Observe behaviour before sex if you are looking for commitment.

Do not rush to take them home, introduce them to family or to decide that they are the one. You can give yourself a few months to make this lifetime decision. Meanwhile, it is perfectly OK to keep your options open if you want to, as long as you are not sleeping with anyone.

Give yourself around 90 days of no sex if this person is of good character. If you know you will catch feelings after sex that is. It is not a good idea to hang on that long when there are glaring red flags though.

Pace the relationship instead of settling with the next person you really like, you meet or who pursues you.

Avoid rushing to claim this person due to their good looks by societal standards, or their wordly success, because they are famous, educated, good in bed, or they possess something that you want.

When you meet people for relationship, how they show up is the indicator for you, to either proceed or step back and keep searching.

If you meet someone who is not consistent, who is abusive and who does not meet your needs, no matter how handsome, beautiful or wealthy they are, their behaviour is the ruler you use to make the decision to discontinue the relationship or enforce boundaries.

Remove the thought of this person's potential. Do not focus on what they have which you want, because that is not a measure for compatibility.

There are good looking people with unhealthy toxic behaviours out there. You are not looking for someone to show to the world. You want someone you can live with.

There are educated people who have no clue about how to communicate with other people. You are not looking for an educator. You want someone who treats you with empathy.

There are wealthy people who lack consideration for the needs or feelings of others. Love is not going to be sustained by their wealth. You want someone who genuinely loves you.

There are people who are very good in bed who have no clue at all about how to show up in a healthy way in life and relationships. Sex is not everything. You want someone who shows up for you in all other ways in relationship.

You want someone of good character, who will walk far with you in a relationship. When you meet someone who is on the same page, who respects boundaries and who is consistent, focused and meet your needs, that is the sign you need to proceed if you are both choosing each other.

If on the other hand, this person is not choosing you, that is a sign that you are not on the same page.

If someone does not seem to be consistent, and they are indicating that they are not into you, avoid making it your business to hang around trying to convince them to notice you.

If someone does not seem to be into you, you have no business hanging around trying to convince them.

That is just a clear signal for you to move on. It is not personal that someone is not into you, or no longer into you. It is simply information to help you make decisions in your best interest.

Do not open their story to interpretation in order to make excuses for them, and then jump into action and try to fix. " He is into me, but he is just busy!" People who want a relationship with you make time for you.

Their inconsistency is not a signal for you to jump into action and fix.

The traffic light is red. Stop. This is not a puzzle to be solved. It is ab observation to be made.

Act on the information you get from their behaviour according to how it is being delivered, for your dignity. Otherwise, in trying to fix, you are operating from a place of scarcity or perceived limited options.

Just appreciate the feedback you are getting, pack up and keep moving forwards. Move towards other people and other options. One person is not the last person you can have a relationship with. Date other people out there if the relationship is in its infancy. Or leave, take a break and start dating again at a future date.