Denial prevents you from leaving a toxic relationship

The only way to improve your relationship outcomes is by, foremost acknowledging that you have relationship problems.

If you are in a toxic relationship and you focus on the highs only, or disregard the very bad experiences, you are not likely to make a decision to take action in your best interest.

If you are struggling with certain behaviours in a relationship and are not changing them, it most likely is due to denial.

When you are not ready to change, because you are still stuck in your old patterns, you might not see the long term implications of your behaviour. You might not look into what might happen in this relationship long term due to unhelpful behaviours of your partner, and your attitude towards them.

In situations where you are not familiar with self-love, you might not view your self-sabotage behaviour as an act of self-harm and self-betrayal.

Perhaps you do not view the suffering you are inflicting on yourself as consequences of your attitude and behaviour.

Perhaps you do not notice the chaos or unhappiness that is in your relationship as a consequence of your attitude and mindset.

You might view the action by someone to break-up with you as punishment or the only noticeable consequences because you only believe punishment comes from others, or from the action of others.

Remember, the other person might just wake up one day having had enough, and break up with you.

Rather than wait for someone to take action for you to acknowledge that you have a problem, work on yourself. Identify what attitudes and behaviours are not helping you.

Pay attention to your entitlement habits and the tendency to be comfortable and take a relationship for granted after a certain period.

Challenge yourself to be a better person daily. To be a person you want to date. To be a person you want to live with.

Keep treating your partner and relationship as if they are new daily. Keep dating and keep appreciation at the top of your priority list.