Dating a person you feel is above your class

"Above my class" is a human construct that you need to throw away. How is it working out for you so far?

Too beautiful for me.

Too rich.

Too handsome.

Too educated.

For what? For breathing? For toilet? For bleeeding? For death?

Externals have nothing to do with anyone's worth or character. Externals do not determine the success or failure of a relationship.

The reason why a person might want to date you when you seem to be from different socioe-conomic classes, is because you are worthy. Their looks, money, status or possessions do not matter on a deeper level. Those externals do not determine successful relationship outcomes. Whatever they might "have" might be completely different from what they can be.

You are human, just as they are.

He bleeds just like you.

He feels just like you.

He breathes the same air, just like you.

He has body parts as you do. As long as they fit in each other, nothing else matters.

He is mortal just like you.

She wakes up with a mouth odour that would kill a goat just like anyone.

She goes to the toilet and makes a mess.

You can turn him or her on and that has nothing to do with his wallet, career level, status or looks. That is because he or she has feelings and is human. End of.

If this person is choosing you for now, it has nothing to do with externals. It is most likely the person you are, that attracted your lover.

The measure of a person is their character or virtue, not social class, looks or background.

Start as you wish to continue

Work on self-love to boost self-confidence. Start as you wish to continue. Many times people who put someone on a pedestal can feel that their home is unworthy of this person. They might pretend to be what they are not. Or pretend to have what they do not have in order to fit in.

It is important that you invite him or her to your house, and spend as much time there as you do at theirs.

Be proud of your space because you live there.

This is the same space you come out of every day, where you eat, drink and bath, so be proud of it.

Let your lover take you as you are, or if he or she does not feel that he can stay in the space you live in, he or she might also not accept you fully. That would be this person's own preference and a sign of their personal problems too. That is information you need right now to know whether to proceed with the relationship or not.

It is OK if your person wants to contribute to a different environment for you. They might want you to move in with them. Make sure you take your time and get to know this person first. Be cautious as some people can become controlling because you have accepted financial backing. People can use money to manipulate and belittle you. They can treat you like their property.

Show up high value.

Do not put a person on a pedestal. Treat them like a start human being, but also a special person in your life.

Have boundaries and express yourself with vulnerability with feeling statements when you communicate.

Learn conflict resolution strategies and improve communication skills. That is what attracts healthy individuals.

Learn emotional regulation so that you do not betray yourself.

Have your own life and interests. Do not drown in this relationship.

Show up authentically , and without pretence.. Focus on how you feel around this person and away from them. Not about what he has, but about the relationship. No matter what people have, do or their titles, how they treat you shows you who they are on a deeper level.

Heal for your relationships.

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