Consistency is self-love

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If you want to develop a new habit to replace old ones, you need to be disciplined enough to consistently repeat the exercises daily. Consistency can demonstrate discipline, which is the highest form of self-love.

If you want to build credibility with yourself to improve self-worth, you need consistency.

If you need to be able to trust yourself, you need to be consistent with acting in your best interest.

If you are going to create trust in your relationships, work and friendships, consistency in your role is key.

Consistency does not require perfection. It accepts flaws and learning from shortcomings.

When you find yourself in situations with unpredictability and inconsistency, you need to step back and pay attention to self-discipline. Rather than point blame at the direction of those who might not be consistent , consider why this might be happening.

Is there somewhere in your life where you are betraying yourself, and not honouring your promises to yourself? Because, other people might be directing you at areas where your boundaries are porous in your self-work.

Do not take that feedback too hard either. We learn from feedback. If you are faced with lack of commitment in relationships, respect yourself. You can even step back, and pause the situation if possible.

Why you do not need inconsistency

Lack of consistency can lead to confusion.

You might not know where you stand in a situation.

Even done by you to you for you, lack of consistency can lead to a lack of belief in what you are doing and in yourself.

If you allow inconsistency to continue, you will constantly question the situation, the other person and yourself.

Accepting inconsistency is also a sign that you are not consistent with yourself.

If you know your values, it is important that you maintain consistency and predictability by not only stepping away from situations where consistency is lacking, but by also strengthening your self-consistency by looking for situations where there is predictability.

Also, noting when people are not consistent in your life can provide you with guidance on how you can proceed in such relationships. What you can do with those people and what kind of situations you can maintain with them.

Your inner child requires stability, and a massive dose of clarity is helpful most of the time for that to happen.

Being consistent

Situations that are consistent provide you with much needed go ahead to focus on other areas of your life. This is because when there is unpredictability, you need to keep checking , to keep asking, to keep looking over your shoulder to see if what is supposed to happen is happening.

Keep and maintain your promises with yourself and with others.

Adhere to your key values and commit to them through your actions.

The idea is to let others off the hook.

Learn to accept the choices of others.

However, remind yourself that consistency in your own life is mandatory. Nobody can provide you with peace of mind except yourself. Nobody can give you what you cannot give yourself.

Heal your boundaries and self-love.