Comparing childhood coping strategies and adult solutions

Are you acting with unconditional positive self-regard? If your inner child is in charge you will self-sabotage

Are actions taking in your best interest?

Are the strategies you are using to run your life adult actions, or childish manipulative tactics?

Are you collaborating or controlling?

Are you reacting or responding?

Do you seek revenge, act with cruelty wheb you do not get your own way? Or do you practice kindness and wish others well when you do not agree?

Do you rejoice when someone you do not agree with has a life challenge? Or do you empathise?

Do you try to outdo others, to show you are better than others or behave as if you are better than others? Or do you focus on your journey?

Are you inspiring and influencing or trying to force outcomes?

Are you being helpless or resourceful?

If you observed your behaviour as a third party, would you feel that you were prioritising yourself?

Are you being dramatic or genuinely curious and seeking support?

Do you keep asking questions to seek attention or do you apply solutions you requested to move forward?

Do you have a need to prove yourself or to win? Or do you focus on your life and not compare yourself with anyone?

Blaming others for everything that goes wrong in your life without taking responsibility.

Do you hide from the world for fear of showing people who you are? Or do you confidently live your life without concern whether people approve or not.

Do you feel resentful if you are not given attention? Or do you give yourself attention and let people choose?

Do you continue your "independence" while self-destructing, because you fear that people will tell you what you do not want to hear? Or do you face your fears and step out of your comfort zone!

Do you try to step up and defend "the helpless" while unable to defend yourself? Or do you support others to become autonomous and resourceful?