Categorise people instead of fighting people

Family and friends

I used to think the problem is with other people in relationships such as friendships, family or romance.

I needed to adjust my thinking because I had expectations in these relationships based on my childhood Unmet needs.

There's a way to manage your relationships with detachment no matter what people do.

Learn to be your source of inspiration and guidance for best interest decisions.

OBSERVE BEHAVIOUR OF OTHERS

Are they are stepping into the space to do their bit?

Trust, allow them to do their best. Whatever their best is, accept it as data

ASSESS YOUR NEEDS

Objectively evaluate your feelings if you feel let down and communicate in healthy ways. Not every feeling of being let down is the fault of other people. Assess expectations.

ROMANCE

With inconsistency or lack of responses, in romance, look into whether this relationship is serving you.

FRIENDSHIPS -any abuse of betrayals let go.

What value does each person bring your life?

Categorise connections into,

close friends,

friends at work,

friends in winter,

cycling friends and

associates.

FAMILY -any abuse or violations let go

Approach relatives with detachment. You will need each other one day, but if there's no reciprocity, avoid fights.

Live your life until you need each other. Do family things where needed and go home.

Mirror people's behaviour if you have been the one trying hard. Do not give more than you get.

You don't need to confront everybody about not talking to you, not answering, unless you had plans where they didn't communicate their inability to attend.

If you notice a pattern, use their pattern as data to act in your best interest!