Break up letting go tip

A break up or someone asking for space is just that, a need for space. It is an ending, whether temporary or permanent. It is a time to strip the old and start something new. Something is coming your way that cannot go into an occupied space.

View it like an end of employment in some ways. Or like leaving home in other ways, or children moving out of home. It is painful, but is not the end of the world, your world.

A break-up does not determine your self worth at all. Whether the job ended because the company closed down, or you were not competent enough; whether a relationship ended and they moved on; they found someone else or they no longer require your service, do not assign any more meaning to it than the fact that you know. You are no longer serving them, no longer together, that is all.

People are fit for purpose for a while in your lives, until they have served their purpose. There are areas where you no longer fit in each other's lives and if you allow this process, you will find out why. There are "behind the scenes" activities you do not know and understand, which is why a state of trusting and allowing the flow is key.

We are also recycled and recycle in order to serve in other places, others' lives and other purpose. For that is the way of life, the way it is and the way it is designed.

If you fight this process, you will suffer with pain , fighting what is outside your control. You will block yourself and get stuck because you are blocking the natural state of things and disturbing the flow. You will be trying to control outcomes.

The value or meaning you put on your break-up story is what leads to pain. The meaning you assign to it is the cause of your suffering. When you start to over analyse the situation, attaching it to your identity and imagining what you perceive to be true about the situation, you will see more than there is to it.

When you objectively explore what is going on here, and view the end as a time for change, you can identify and acknowledge that the ending is triggering feedback. Identify and meet your unmet needs from your childhood, "to be in control" and "autonomy" to take responsibility for your life. Additionally, you might also notice that you have unmet needs to belong, feel included, to be liked, being needed, loved and accepted. It helps to notice that you have been meeting them in so many ways with so many others all your life. You can meet these needs on your own, as well as identify others in your immediate circle who can support you to co-parent and meet those needs in reciprocap non-romantic relationships. This ending or change is helpful to shape and enhance your future as you access your immediate circle as practice ground for your next relationship.

You have been connecting all your life; you have been validated before and still are; you have been loved, you are still loved by many others. So look to yourself for this love, and to others around you who love you without condition. Do not focus on one person who is not compatible with you.

Your worthiness is not based on the challenges you have with one person or any person or situation. Endings are a place to start something new because the world has abundance and others waiting to meet you.

You can love again as long as you are alive. Choose yourself, choose love. Start to love again. Start with you, for if you love you first, you will also appreciate that others love themselves first. Remember people gravitate towards people who love and value themselves.

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