Boundaries for career and business

Boundaries for career and business

The world has taught us to prioritise material wealth. Yet, our careers and businesses are dependent on our overall wellbeing. We are of no use to anyone if we are not of use to ourselves.

The idea is not to overwork in a job that can replace you. To stress yourself to the point of anxiety because you need the job. You will lose your life and wellbeing instead, then the job will replace you.

When you go to work, ensure you parent yourself like the child you are sending to school. What they like to hear from someone they love? Say and do that for yourself. Prepsre and encourage yourself

When you learn self-parenting, you practice and learn to feel safe in your body. When you feel safe in your body, you can articulate what is going on inside you. This helps you to also recognise what is safe and is not safe for you in your environment.

This environment includes work and home and your romance and friendships.

1. Improve or set your emotional baseline before work. Practice a self-care routine to get ready for the day.

2. Segment intend before tasks to reset your mindset. This helps prevent being washed up with different currents.

3. Repeat affirmations, practice segment intending, self-hugs and carthartic shake and deep breathing before meetings or when engaging with someone who has triggered you before. Or when engaging with customers.

4. Maintain your values and be the change you want to see through a change of attitude.

5. Look after yourself and do not fight anyone in life. Engage after self-parenting and create solutions that are fit for purpose. Engage compassionately and constructively.

6. Give people a chance to make changes, but also set yourself a timelime to explore what is working and what is not, before you escalate the situation or leave.

7. Learn to let go and to focus on what is within your control. Do not force outcomes and do not be difficult.

8. Work within work hours and leave once your working time is up. Avoid work codependency and codependent relationships at work. You cannot fix everything.

This is an issue of boundaries. At the same time, while at work do your work instead of being the one whose work someone is trying to cover.

9. Avoid perfectionism and delegate. You need to trust others or train them.

10. If you are a manager, recognise the toxicity of having favourite staff. That is codependency. You are there for all.

11. Adhering to your values also means to be aware of the unhealthy patterns of picking on people, scape-goating staff members and victimising subordinates. Whatever you do will come back to haunt you in some ways.

12. Avoid the habit of talking about people behind their backs. If you are confident in your abilities, and you adhere to your values, gossip has no place in your life. That is just an excuse to make yourself feel good. Engage with people directly. Avoid escalating situations that can be discussed with someone.

13. If you are a boss, train staff who are struggling. Ask them what help they require. Be supportive and give them an opportunity. Ask them what options they think they have. Avoid teaching by punishment.

14. Learn to accept feedback from people you might not like. These are people who will help you to grow. Avoid discrimination or isolation of your critics. Bring them to the table and have frank and open discussions about what is in the interest of the Company.

15. Do not rise in the ranks by stepping on other people. It is not worth it. Whatever we give out, at some point we get back like an echo. These people bleed, breathe and feel just like you. Remember to value and respect everyone. Even when you have to let them go.

15. Do not worship anyone because they are in charge. Human beings are just human. Respect everyone but do not allow bad treatment or being degraded in order to stay in a job.

It is important to recognise that your attitude and character at work reveals how you were raised and how you learnt to cope. The killer attitude or shark attitude at work is not healthy. We all need to understand that we are equals. We just need to work together and get the job done. But at our core, we come from one source of love. It is just work to while up time and pay bills while we are here. There is more to life than money and fame.

Everyone at work needs to feel seen and acknowledged. To find satisfaction in being in a welcoming humane space. It is not just work. It is everyone’s life too. Be kind.