Blocked by a partner or ex partner

When a partner blocks you and ends relationship after an argument

You might want them back.

You might feel heart broken.

You believe they are the love of your life

You feel that you want them back.

The idea is not to focus on what you want or imagine to be the best.

Because focusing on outcomes prevents growth. It also excludes the gestation process.

Focus on what went wrong and how it came about.

Also how often this happened and the impact of this last episode.

Things build up. Or it can be that there were boundaries in this last episode.

Evaluate how you managed the conflict. Or how you fought or argued.

Self-reflect. What might have been your own contribution in this situation?

Again, when focused on outcomes, you might not consider what exactly you did that might have worsened the situation

If you fight dirty or ugly, some people draw a line.

You might take a situation lightly or minimise it, but some people respect themselves. Or they just feel that they do not deserve certain treatment.

If you reverse roles, how would you feel? Look into the situation and how it unfolded. You might understand their perspective.

What might help is to take this time to work through these questions and work on yourself.

Blocking is a boundary. Respect it. People who block can gey you a restraining order.

Trying to reach out to someone who blocked you might be a way to avoid yourself.

Heal the inner child, grievethe loss.

Let go of attachment to outcomes.

Make peace with rejection.

Respect their boundary.

Seek accountability with someone you can contact in the place of your ex.

Trust the process.