Be OK with not being chosen

Remember, people will do what people want to do for their own reasons. Lovers might not want to meet your needs. Your friends, family and circle might not support you. It is not personal. Nobody is sitting somewhere scheming to hurt you. Even when people do, it is only because they believe that it will soothe them.

Whatever people do, you can only control yourself. It is up to you to trust people to know what is best for them, and allow them to do what they do. After all you cannot stop them even then.

People operate from their own wounding or best interest. Sometimes they react to you, and other times they simply do not believe you fit with their purpose. Each one of us has a purpose and you might have served your purpose in someone's life and have to move on. Learn to be OK with that too.

Most of the time, by the time you complain, you might have had enough. You have talked enough. Rather than keep complaining while choosing to stay in this environment, remember, you have two choices.

1. Make the tough decision to heal and love yourself. Accept that people are choosing. Allow them to keep choosing what is best for them. Their choice might not include you. Choose what is in your best interest, within your control, which is not trying to make other people choose what you want.

2. Choose to stay in your comfort zone, where you are and struggle for your worthiness. Effort to prove to someone how good you are. Work to live this situation out.

Die a little daily until they leave, or you become so unhappy that you cannot recognise yourself.

Expose yourself to psychological harm.

Demand the best for yourself. Let people choose you because they want to, not because you made them. Be kind enough to allow people to proceed on their purpose even if it means you are not there. They have their journey, as do you!

Your kindness needs to include you first. You will fulfil your purpose one way or the other if you trust the process. You will encounter fit for purpose cooperative components and people along the path

. Trust the universe, it is on your side!