Be aware of your every step!

What makes you do what you do?

Along the physical trail we adopted self-protective mechanisms. We do things or take action or make decisions and choices to protect ourselves. In these decisions or choices, we might not connect with ourselves for answers.

Sometimes, these choices might interfere with connecting with others authentically. We might avoid company due to fear of getting hurt.

Or, while we might be physically surrounded by others, we do not feel seen.

It is helpful to consider the kind of home you grew up in.

Who was there? Even though we might be raised by the greatest people on earth, being abandoned by biological parents in some form or manner still makes us question our worth. How was love given? How were you disciplined? How did you cope with the way love and discipline were approached?

Sometimes people tend to also focus only on the parent who was present in a single parent household. Whoever was not there also plays a key role in your life outcomes.

Absent fathers, or mothers, even for economic or health reasons. A deceased parent. Not to mention a physically present but emotionally unavailable parent.

To help yourself recognise your patterns for what they are and heal the inner to connect with yourself.

When you heal, you can make any of those decisions from a place of clarity. Apply objective evaluation or SIFTSEM to use emotions to ask yourself what you do, why you do it and what you can do differently.